Are You Emotionally Robust?

It’s possible that if you’ve never faced some difficulty, you may not have become psychologically resilient. Some of is find the world a more difficult place to negotiate than others. The issue is, can we deal with difficulties in a composed way that doesn’t disrupt our psychological balance. I call this state fluidity. Fluidity is a combination of possessing resilience, and equanimity. 

Psychological resilience is the ability to confidently endure a crisis and to resume emotional calm speedily. It exists in people who develop self-awareness and good psychological practices that authorises them to stay unruffled during psychological tension or confusion and to move on from that state without continuing negative thoughts and feelings.

My form of fluidity is where you sit steadily within yourself internally and you are less anxious with matters beyond your control. You have a genuine authentic reality regarding your true self and are genuinely mindful of your frailties, strengths, vulnerabilities, less than lovely qualities as well as your well-regarded abilities. My experience is when operating in arduous circumstances the ensuing upset doesn’t overly distress me that much being fluid allows you to proceed with a little passing gremlin rather than an enduring catastrophe.

The American Psychological Association suggests "10 Ways to Build Resilience”:

  1. to maintain good relationships with close family members, friends and others.
  2. to avoid seeing crises or stressful events as unbearable problems.
  3. to accept circumstances that cannot be changed.
  4. to develop realistic goals and move towards them.
  5. to take decisive actions in adverse situations.
  6. to look for opportunities of self-discovery after a struggle with loss.
  7. to develop self-confidence.
  8. to keep a long-term perspective and consider the stressful event in a broader context.
  9. to maintain a hopeful outlook, expecting good things and visualising what is wished.
  10. to take care of one's mind and body, exercising and regularly, paying attention to one's own needs and feelings.

This list is great, but its lengthy and challenging list and for most an impossible challenge.

I often use the three ‘F’s” mini mantra, which is not a complete answer, but it’s handy:

Flexibility replacing Fixity promotes Fluidity

  1. Flexibility is where you have a relaxed, acceptant and grounded attitude to what happens and how it happens. You look at things in a composed and mindful way.
  2. Fixity is being stuck in your ways; narrow minded, stubborn, inflexible or rigid in your thoughts, outlook and behaviours.
  3. Fluidity is when you are faced with a difficult or challenging situation, and it doesn’t upset you internally and you deal with it evenly and realistically.

Becoming more flexible requires self-examination, straightforward honesty and unpretentiousness, but ultimately can help bring about fluidity or an internal harmony where you feel just right, a place that is individual to you – your unique contented balance.

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