Headspace and an Easier Life

De-cluttering or streamlining a complicated life can enhance the worth of that life...

Think about having dozens of browser tabs open and trying to read them simultaneously, trying to concurrently manage a mass of thoughts at the same time can be confusing and often overwhelming and make us worse than ineffective. Conversely, if we can rationalise and simplify our thoughts and emotions, permitting ourselves to focus on one thing at a time, we can gain massive benefits.

Increasing emotional intelligence frees up an individual's headspace facilitating potential positive movement within a person's ease of thought, feeling, expression and efficacy. As the late Steve Jobs of Apple says: “You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple, it’s worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains.” Even if you don’t aim to such enormous goals, just being relaxed and at ease is an excellent aspiration and will eventually make you a more successful human being.

William Henry Davies (1871-1940) was a promoter of this simplification attitude. In his poem, ‘Leisure’, he wrote about questioning the substance of a busy life:

“What is this life if, full of care, We have no time to stand and stare?”

His words are thought provoking, but it seems to me that Davies discovered a big guiding light in his everyday life. Davies lived an incredibly modest life which gave him internal easement.

Occasionally some of my clients try to undertake a specific challenge that feels meaningful to them, but then I came up against a block of discouraging historical conditioning and bad learnt habits, which prevents them from moving forward in a positive manner.

So, how do we get past this barrier? Exploring oneself and acquiring a deep self-awareness helps, one step in moving towards doing what I truly feel you want to do... be who you truly want to be.

I have personally learnt that I do not need to be aware of everything that goes on in the world and I certainly do not need to know all the answers to all the questions. Being involved psychologically in things I cannot change is, I think, futile.

To maximise or to optimise? I would urge people to consider not rushing around perpetually pursuing maximisation, but consider trying to slow down, stand and stare and optimise their genuine potential.  Allowing psychological space in my head is liberating; it allows me to breath emotionally and gives me time to do be me, to be less busy, and optimise that person I truly am... be the person I genuinely want to be. 

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